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Delights & Discomforts: Pregnancy & Beyond


I’ve finally decided to change my last name

I’ve been married for a month and a half, but I wanted to be 100% certain that I wanted to change my last name. I’ve been back and forth with the decision, and I wanted to just be at peace with giving up my maiden name. I know a lot of people have really strong opinions about this, and I’ve had a lot of people tell me before I got married that I should absolutely take my husband’s last name, but I wanted it to be my decision. I personally think that a woman is not obligated to do anything, including change her name, and she should just do what is best for her. After a lot of deliberation, I’ve realized that having his last name is what I want, and that doesn’t mean I’m giving up a part of myself. 
I think it was hard for me to change my name because it represents my Kenyan ancestry and my family’s tribe. Both my middle name and my last name have history that I’m very proud of. I’m going to just make my maiden name a second middle name, and add my husband’s name onto the end so that way I can keep everything and have his name as well. 
Now I just have to go through the long process of contacting all the proper companies and organizations to get my documentation in order. 

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“ Life is too short to spend it at war with yourself. ”




So why isn’t this all over the news? Had a group of Blacks murdered a white cop…

So wait… tf happened that all 3 of these drunk assholes killed a cop

well, apparently, the white woman was getting arrested by the officer - his name’s kevin jordan, by the way - and her boyfriend (bowman) saw she was getting arrested and shot k. jordan multiple times in the back.

here’s the article i read:

lord, I was thought they arrested her.

From their Facebook

There will be a candlelight vigil on Friday night starting at 8PM at the old walmart parking lot. Participants should start gathering around 7:30. The vigil is open to the public. Officer Jordan’s family will be in attendance.”

Just in case anyone wants to attend

Conservatives love to fling rhetoric about assaulting a police officer being a horrible, heinous crime. But a black police officer gets killed in a red state, in a place of business, during a previously nonviolent arrest? Silence.


Omg… My Spirit Hurts Bruh…

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“ As an atheist, I see nothing “wrong” in believing in a God. I don’t think there is a God, but belief in him does no harm. If it helps you in any way, then that’s fine with me. It’s when belief starts infringing on other people’s rights when it worries me. I would never deny your right to believe in a God. I would just rather you didn’t kill people who believe in a different God, say. Or stone someone to death because your rulebook says their sexuality is immoral. It’s strange that anyone who believes that an all-powerful all-knowing, omniscient power responsible for everything that happens, would also want to judge and punish people for what they are. ”

—    Ricky Gervaism, Why I’m an Atheist (via utterdiscord)

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I’m about an hr and a half late, but here are my week 27 photos. I still feel like my belly is small, but everything is measuring just fine :) I’m excited to finally be in the 3rd trimester


pumpkin spice candles soon

pumpkin lattes soon

pumpkin everything


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a reality check that’s a blow to the solar plexis

SEE ALSO: why i’m crumbling under the weight of prolonged loneliness for fear of letting anyone in again & repeating this


I had to read the lines on the first image a few times before they set in. I realized that I hadn’t before imagined abuses that disabled women could be facing. I feel like I, like most people, often pictured loving, caring environments. I’m glad that I saw this on my dashboard and I hope that people continue to spread this. 

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That’s a really good idea :) thanks!